The Body Keeps Score in Love, too. When love stops feeling safe, the body carries the cost. Photo credit: Victor Habchy Hi Reader, In the dance of love, there are two equal destroyers of health: constant conflict and quiet disconnection. When a relationship becomes a battleground — or turns into a quiet, empty space where no one really reaches — the body pays the price. Chronic relational stress builds what science calls allostatic load: the accumulated wear and tear that stress leaves on...
7 days ago • 4 min read
Generous Assumptions Because love is built in the fire.🔥🔥 Every couple says they want better communication, deeper trust, more love. But few realize that the real work begins the moment you feel misunderstood. That’s where love meets its edge—where your nervous system floods, your defenses rise, and the part of you wired for survival tries to run the show. This is the dojo I train couples in every day. Because beneath every argument is a nervous system begging to feel safe. And nothing...
14 days ago • 3 min read
What's Attachment Got To Do With It? Learning to love without losing yourself. Understanding your attachment style is one of the most powerful ways to transform your relationships—from the inside out. It’s the hidden map that reveals why you reach, retreat, or wrestle for connection—the unconscious choreography of your nervous system trying to protect you from pain while still longing for closeness. Your attachment style isn’t who you are—it’s the story your nervous system learned about...
23 days ago • 1 min read
An Invitation From My Heart Life asks so much of us… here’s what I’ve learned, and an invitation. Dear Reader, When I think back on the time we shared — the trust, the tenderness, the brave moments of opening — I feel such deep gratitude. Thank you for allowing me to walk beside you in that season of your life. This work is about creating a safe and sacred space to breathe a little deeper, to feel seen, and to come home to yourself. Holding that space for you was a gift. I don't take your...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Stop Playing Small—It’s Time Aren't You Tired of Spinning the Same Old Tapes in Your Head? I hear a lot of you wanting extraordinary lives and juicy relationships, and some of you are working towards that life vision with devotion and consistency. This is for those of you who say you want all the amazing things in life, but are stuck in ruts and loops you are not proud of. HERE’S WHAT I’VE BUILT:A sacred, no-BS portal that slices through the noise, pierces illusion, and drags your wild,...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Alchemizing Resistance And What's Possible When You Do There are two kinds of resistance I see again and again with my clients. The first kind is almost gentle—like overwhelm. It’s the body whispering: Do you realize what you’re stepping into? It’s the awareness of the sheer scale of a dream, the enormity of saying yes to a desire with your whole being. This one can be softened, breathed through, steadied with presence and a healthy inner dialogue. But then there’s the other kind. The kind...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
You've Been Underestimating Yourself Time to break up with victim mentality You’ve been underestimating yourself.For far too long. I meet so many of you—bright, fierce,holy human beingswho have weathered stormsunfathomable. You grew up in chaos,through the impossible hallways of childhood,and still—you rose.Your heart pulled lifewardwith a strength that borders on heroic. And yet—so often I hear doubtechoing in your chest,a quiet erosion of self-love,a core disbelief in your own brilliance....
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
When Powerlessness Finds Me On Tending To The Waves With Reverence There are seasonswhen I feel like I am drowning—waves pulling me under,the surface—just out of reach. It whispers: you are stuck here.And my body… believes. But this—this is not who I am.It is only a wave.Rising when my system is overwhelmed.When old wounds are asking—to be seen. The invitation is not to thrash.Not to shame myself for being here.The invitation is to soften.To let myself float.To whisper:this is a part of...
2 months ago • 1 min read
In The Quivering Audio Version Here Perhaps our imaginations… are too human-limited. We plan our lives.Hopefully following our hearts. And yet,Life itself is the best creative writer. Plot twists.Wild surprises.Heavy lifts. Steep climbs. Moments of doubt.Faith collapsing. And then—Bright sunrises.Warm embraces. Swims in the ocean.Rose-petal cappuccinos. Laughter with friends.The steady hush of starry skies. The soul’s longing—it pulls harder.Like a rip current. Stronger.Than the soft waves.Of...
2 months ago • 1 min read
