A Soft Homecoming A Gentle Invitation Before the Holidays Begin Dear Reader, I’ve been thinking of you all as we enter this season. I know November often brings that subtle tension — the sense that the season is picking up speed and asking more of us. As the holidays approach, it’s easy for our energy to get stretched thin and for our inner worlds to feel worn down and neglected. This time of year brings a deep paradox:our bodies naturally want to slow down, rest, and turn inward…while our...
6 days ago • 1 min read
A Soft Homecoming A Gentle Invitation Before the Holidays Begin Dear Reader, I’ve been thinking of you all as we enter this season. I know November often brings that subtle tension — the sense that the season is picking up speed and asking more of us. As the holidays approach, it’s easy for our energy to get stretched thin and for our inner worlds to feel worn down and neglected. This time of year brings a deep paradox:our bodies naturally want to slow down, rest, and turn inward…while our...
6 days ago • 1 min read
The Quiet Cost of Pretending Why you were never meant to work this hard for love. There is a cost to belonging that no one talks about. Belonging is one of the strongest forces in the human body. From the moment you’re born, the body scans for connection. The nervous system will twist itself for it, work for it, and even sacrifice your truthfor it. Is it safe to reach?Is it safe to be seen?Is it safe to be me? When belonging feels shaky, the body starts shaping itself around what it thinks...
12 days ago • 3 min read
The Body Keeps Score in Love, too. When love stops feeling safe, the body carries the cost. Photo credit: Victor Habchy Hi Reader, In the dance of love, there are two equal destroyers of health: constant conflict and quiet disconnection. When a relationship becomes a battleground — or turns into a quiet, empty space where no one really reaches — the body pays the price. Chronic relational stress builds what science calls allostatic load: the accumulated wear and tear that stress leaves on...
20 days ago • 4 min read
The Body Keeps Score in Love, too. When love stops feeling safe, the body carries the cost. Photo credit: Victor Habchy Hi Reader, In the dance of love, there are two equal destroyers of health: constant conflict and quiet disconnection. When a relationship becomes a battleground — or turns into a quiet, empty space where no one really reaches — the body pays the price. Chronic relational stress builds what science calls allostatic load: the accumulated wear and tear that stress leaves on...
21 days ago • 4 min read
Generous Assumptions Because love is built in the fire.🔥🔥 Every couple says they want better communication, deeper trust, more love. But few realize that the real work begins the moment you feel misunderstood. That’s where love meets its edge—where your nervous system floods, your defenses rise, and the part of you wired for survival tries to run the show. This is the dojo I train couples in every day. Because beneath every argument is a nervous system begging to feel safe. And nothing...
28 days ago • 3 min read
What's Attachment Got To Do With It? Learning to love without losing yourself. Understanding your attachment style is one of the most powerful ways to transform your relationships—from the inside out. It’s the hidden map that reveals why you reach, retreat, or wrestle for connection—the unconscious choreography of your nervous system trying to protect you from pain while still longing for closeness. Your attachment style isn’t who you are—it’s the story your nervous system learned about...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
An Invitation From My Heart Life asks so much of us… here’s what I’ve learned, and an invitation. Dear Reader, When I think back on the time we shared — the trust, the tenderness, the brave moments of opening — I feel such deep gratitude. Thank you for allowing me to walk beside you in that season of your life. This work is about creating a safe and sacred space to breathe a little deeper, to feel seen, and to come home to yourself. Holding that space for you was a gift. I don't take your...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Stop Playing Small—It’s Time Aren't You Tired of Spinning the Same Old Tapes in Your Head? I hear a lot of you wanting extraordinary lives and juicy relationships, and some of you are working towards that life vision with devotion and consistency. This is for those of you who say you want all the amazing things in life, but are stuck in ruts and loops you are not proud of. HERE’S WHAT I’VE BUILT:A sacred, no-BS portal that slices through the noise, pierces illusion, and drags your wild,...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read